Japanese Valentine's Day chocolate giving customs in miniature

re-ment-girichoco.jpgAs I wrote about last year, Valentine’s Day in Japan is fraught with social stress. Somehow, the chocolate manufacturers have managed to convince the whole society that a girl or woman can’t just give chocolates to the ones they love. (And it’s only the women who give chocolates in Japan on the 14th, not men, unlike other countries.) She must also give giri choco, or ‘obligation chocolates’, to people she ‘owes’; bosses, teachers, and fathers-in-law.

Now you can see this kind of social giving in miniature! Re-ment, the maker of amazingly detailed diecast miniatures which I’ve also written about before, has this set of two types of chocolates: Honmei or giri?! (Your real target, or obligation?!) The caption says this:

Chocolate assortment: The present for the boss is a chocolate assortment that we all chipped in for. The boss is quite a gourmet, so we couldn’t just get any old thing, but this makes the grade doesn’t it?

Handmade chocolate cake: A cake I’m proud of, that uses Belgian couverture lavishly. Tonight I’m inviting him (my boyfriend) to my room, for a Sweet Valentine’s Party.

I do agree that handmade is the ultimate luxury these days, because time is more precious than money! But…does this mean that if your Japanese girlfriend gives you a storebought box of chocolates, that she doesn’t really care for you? You decide.

The Honmei or giri?! set is part of the Zeitaku Sweets (luxurious or beautiful sweet things) collection. You can get it from J-List or eBay (where merchants often sell individual sets instead of a whole collection). But beware…Re-ment collecting is very addictive.

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Cute!

I love re-ment! Those tiny sweets are super cute!

I’m very glad we don’t have the obligation chocolate tradition here in the US. It seems like it would make for a dicey situation what with sexual harassment laws and the like. And how unfair for the girls! Though I do remember that White Day is when girls get chocolates back.

I have some Japanese V-Day culture questions:

If a woman has a female boss, would she give her boss obligation chocolates on Valentines Day?

Do men have a similar obligation to give chocolates to their female bosses on White Day?

And finally, what do you like to do for Valentine’s day?

Nico | 11 February, 2008 - 21:51

female bosses

Unfortunately, there still aren’t that many female bosses…so I’m not sure if a standard custom has been established for chocolate giving in that situation. I don’t think the female bosses get chocolates though. (I did once work for a female Japanese boss, but she didn’t expect chocolates.)

maki | 12 February, 2008 - 16:18

wow.

Hi M,

What do the men give the women? I am not that into V-day as I consider it a marketing ploy for more consumer consumption. But an occasional gift from my other half is rather nice.

I hope the men give their women something…

Ciao,

Love your articles!

O

ode | 11 February, 2008 - 23:28

Just wait...

Just wait until Whites Day on March 14th… Men reciprocate, with undies for their special ladies. I like Japan. Men get the upper hand on both days!

DGibb | 12 February, 2008 - 05:24

Triple Return

I thought on White Day, men give white sweets, like marshmallow, meringues, white chocolate, etc.

looks it up on wikipedia

Ahhh. So it’s a free-for-all on gift-giving? I like this:

“it is the boy’s turn to return the gift in what is called “triple return”, since the gift the boy gives is supposed to be three times the value of the gift he received.”

Erica | 12 February, 2008 - 10:15

White Day

yep, March 14th is supposed to be White Day when the guys do “okaeshi” (return gifts)….though in practice, not many do. It’s unfair, I know.

As far as how I’l celebrating Valentine’s… let’s say I live in Switzerland…land of greeaaaaaaaat chocolate. And no Japanese males around expecting giri choco! :P

maki | 12 February, 2008 - 16:16

Re: Japanese Valentine's Day chocolate giving customs in ...

it's changing now, guys can give women "reverse chocolate" but its all very confusing
http://japansugoi.com/wordpress/valentines-day-is-reverse-in-japan

anon. | 13 February, 2009 - 11:13

Re: Japanese Valentine's Day chocolate giving customs in ...

This is lovely for gift ideas this hearts day.Custom chocolates is in demand today.

keitley | 13 February, 2011 - 18:11

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